Affection is an important part of lasting relationships, but it must be handled carefully in order to both be satisfying and support the self-respect of both parties. In one example, a married person’s lover would have the conflicted feelings of affection coupled with insecurity. Relationships that are based on personal attraction — especially those that are unconventional — require special attention and a cautious measure of tactful reserve.
To overcome the challenges and achieve longevity, remain mindful of the possible extreme feelings of your attraction and the transitory nature of most new relationships. Such is an irony of life — that the happiest people are the ones who already have what they want and who want what they already have.
It is never easier to make disastrous mistakes than when you venture outside the bounds of propriety. If you assert yourself too much or try to make yourself indispensable, you will incur misfortune. If you are in doubt as to whether you should follow your heart or your head, allow for some time to pass, and perhaps the answer will become clear. Boldly asserting yourself right now could bring misfortune, so do not attempt to be too creative or to attract much favorable attention. At the same time, allowing yourself to drift aimlessly is also a mistake. Find balance in the middle way. The traditional analogy for this hexagram was the delicate transition of a marrying maiden from girlhood to committed adult.